How to: Face problems?

[Lionblade]

I have watched this world for many years. I have encountered many people with different types of living. Different beliefs… different goals… different priorities. However, there is one aspect of life that bothers the hell out of me. How we react to the world around us. More specifically, how we react to the problems we encounter in life. Furthermore, how a lot of us want change in our life and yet we do not act.

The Wrong Way:
I’ve met people who, when faced with a problem, will cower and piss and moan along the lines of “Poor me. Why me? Someone please help me… God, please help me…” Fools. All of them, fools. If a bomb is falling on you, will you cower and pray for someone to save you? Or will you find your own way and move from out under the bomb? These… people don’t know how to react when problems come along. They feel that someone or something will help them. Sadly, the world is not so kind. Whether they were spoon-fed throughout life or just lack common sense, this is not an ideal way of approaching obstacles.

The Reasons:
You will never stand on your own. You will consistently and constantly rely on others to pave your way through life. Life is meant not to be a paved road but a treacherous path not yet treaded. If you wait for a helping hand, divine or otherwise, you will only suffer more. You will not know how to deal with big problems. The end of your world will come swiftly and you will not know what to do. Example: You loose your job, you loose your house, and you loose your kids. I know what its like to be in a situation where your darkest hour becomes your way of life. But trust me when I say that if you do not do anything about it… You’ll never escape. When all them bad things happen, you’re not gonna have the state of mind to pick yourself up and keep moving forward.

The Right Way:
A problem comes along. Think it through. Take a deep breathe and keep your rational mind about you. Contemplate the problem at hand. Once you have a better understanding, consider your solutions. This is where the term “more then one way to skin a cat” applies. (Let it be known that I do not condone skinning kitties. I don’t know who coined the phrase nor understand why anyone would skin their kitteh. I no way encourage you to skin your kittiehs. I love kittehs. Mah kitteh is behind me right now goin Zzzzz Zzzzz. However, I digress.). Consider your various solutions. Consider the consequences of the actions. However, I do not mean just for yourself, but for others as well. Start small. Until you feel you can contemplate every situation and its outcome. Then try it on the problems in your life. It is a very rational and logical process. By doing this, you can move forward with what you think is best. This is how change comes.

The World Will Not Change By Pretty Words Alone:
It it one thing to say “Change your life… go do it.. just go do it”, and yet it is another to actually make Change. I’m not saying it wont be difficult. It will be. I’m not saying it wont be painful. It will be. But life is pain… anyone who says differently is selling something. Change does not begin with promising politicians or God or devoted lovers. It begins with YOU. You must take the first step to right the wrongs in your life. If you want a better life, then go out there and get it. If life denies you then you reject it. Stand firm and carve your own path. And if you grant me any wish, have the resolve to fight against your problems... yourself.

My rant is done. I realize it’s lacking in fluidity. Take what you can from my words. Take care.


Edit: After rereading the end... I see that it can be interpreted that I do not want to hear your problems.. That is not true. I am and will always help my friends and msot foes. However.. there is difference in having someone help you as opposed to having someone do it for you. Also note... I have not always thought this way... I had the "Poor me" mindset for a long time. I am in no way saying that I am better then someone who thinks this way.. I'm simply ahead of the curve.