Relationships..

[Lionblade]

This will be an interesting one I'm sure. First off let me erase all pretense, this will be focused on creating and keeping an ideal relationship with someone you intend to be with. Not pickup lines, not little tricks that I have learned. Everyone has their own style of attracting someone, and that is fine. This is not focused on that but on the relationship that may follow. Everything from this point forward is something that I have learned through heartbreak and breaking hearts. Everything from this point forward is something I myself practice and look for in a relationship with someone.

Honesty:
This is without doubt the most important factor in keeping or establishing a lasting relationship. It is the foundation that a relationship is built on. If you are not honest with someone, they can never trust you. Moreover the foundation of your relationship will be built on lies and deception. Something with such a base is doomed to failure. You don't want to talk about your past lovers all day, but don't lie if asked. You don't have to lie about interests, nor about annoyances.

Trust:
This is formed with Honesty. Trust is necessary, pivotal, critical, in a relationship. This is my reasoning: With trust between two lovers, you will be able to go out with whoever, wherever, and know that your lover knows you are not fooling around. Ideally, this is how a relationship should be.

If a relationship is NOT based on trust, you will achieve the opposite. Your lover will not trust you to go out with people of the opposite sex just as friends. They will want to know where you are and not want you to go out. This is what is called a Controlling Relationship. Fear this most. In a controlling relationship, there is no trust, trust is replaced with suspicion and that will lead to argument. Fighting will ensue because they do not like you hanging out with that person or going to that place where bad people may go. Do you see my reasoning? They will tell you to not go out or hang with them and all this leads is to argument and resentment; the feeling of being controlled. Trust one another! If you can't, don't bother!

Dignity:
People have this instinct to look for the "Alpha" male or female. Women want a man with a backbone who take care of them. Likewise, men tend to want a woman who knows what she wants. The name of the game is dignity. You have to know what you want, but moreover never let someone tell you what you want.

Do not let someone make your decisions for you. Likewise never make theirs. You can accept input and provide it but do not rule or be ruled. Heed what they say but make up your own damn mind.

(To be specific: In a relationship, I want that person to listen to me. Listen to what I have to say and hear me out but in the end make their own choices; in turn, they should know I will hear their words but make up my own mind. I want a lover to listen to what I say, not a robot to do what I say.)

Conclusion:
I wanted to put this out but I may add to it. Some of you come to me for relationship advice, what I have put here are guidelines, nothing more, nothing less. I am always here if you need me. If any questions or advice needed, email, pm, call/txt me at 210-638-0761.